We all have dreams in our hearts; some people are more vocal about them, while others may only whisper them to their closest confidants or scribble them in the safety of the pages of their journals. Some people’s dreams may manifest quickly, while others may take seasons of nurturing and persevering before they come into fruition. I know how frustrating it can be standing in the gap between where you are and where you want to go, so I’d like to share with you some tips and tricks that have helped me to stay focussed as I create my future.
Give your dreams more airtime than your worries
As human beings, it’s instinctual to worry, to focus on that which we lack or those areas that we are struggling. We’re bombarded with input everyday; the world’s, our ego’s, and that of our inner selves. There’s no way to completely tune out everything else, but it’s important to just spend a little time each day listening to your creative voice.
One of the best ways to do this is by focussing on the good things that have already manifested for you. Likely there is more than you think! Giving appreciation for that which you already have will speed up the process of achieving that which you want. Then wait with expectancy for all the other good things you have envisioned to materialize.
Set S.M.A.R.T goals to achieve your dream
Tangible steps towards completion are what turn a dream into a goal. Those steps need to be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time-based in order to be effective. A Life Coach can be really useful for helping you establish such goals, as well as keeping you accountable along the way.
Don’t be afraid to let your dream evolve
I don’t believe that a dream ever really dies, our dreams just evolve along with us.
Regardless of what your dream is, one of four things will happen: your dream will come true and be as amazing as you imagined, it won’t come true, it will come true but it won’t be what you expected, or, along your journey, your dream will morph into something different. Our dreams our like our babies; we have such high hopes and expectations and want them to turn out perfectly. Our dreams can come into creation in infinite ways if we don’t smother them with our expectations. Keep your dream alive, and give it room to grow.
Don’t share your vision with the wrong people
We all want to feel loved and approved of by others, especially those closest to us. However, if you know in your heart that the thing you want is right for you, then listening to naysayers can be disheartening. For example, I’m currently completing a degree in Creative Writing. There’s plenty of people out there who would tell me that I’m wasting time and money on an arts degree. However, I’ve assessed the risks and rewards and have chosen this educational route, so I don’t choose to engage in conversations with people who will try to persuade me against it.
Of course, you want to be open to advice, but your own self- love and self-approval are the building blocks of any joy that you will experience. So, if you’re unsure whether someone will be supportive of your vision, don’t share it with them. Instead, focus on your dream and seek out like-minded individuals.
Don’t lose sight
When you’re trying to create a new life for yourself, you almost have to walk with your feet in two different worlds. You have to manage your life as it is now; you have to continue to pay the bills, work the job you don’t like, get around without a vehicle, deal with people who don’t quite get you- the list goes on. I think it’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day hustle and put your dream on the back-burner in the process. Remember to take time to think about, write about, and visualize what you really want in life.
Focus on the feeling
No matter how clear you are on what you want, no matter how much visualizing you do, things can manifest differently than you imagine. Stay focussed on the why instead of the how. Perhaps you want a great partner because you want to have someone to share your joy with, laugh, dance and cook with. Focus on those feelings of joy, lightheartedness and connectedness. You can seek out friendships in the meantime that embody some of those qualities so that you can feel some of that joy now rather than worrying about how or when your partner will show up.
Sometimes we get so caught up on the specifics of how our dream is supposed to look when it has manifested, we may miss it entirely when it arrives just because it looks a little different than we imagined!
Unplanned for pain
If we could write our stories from day one, we would all probably choose the path of least resistance. Life throws curveballs at us. No matter how careful you are, accidents happen. Breakups happen. Loss. Bankruptcy.
I may wish to see my life as painting with beautiful pastels and vibrant colours. Then when I’m not looking, life throws capfuls of black and brown at my canvas. No matter how much I pout, how much I resist, I have to learn to incorporate the new colours into my work. To dance with the changes. In the end, the picture may look different than what I had planned on, but it is still my masterpiece.